Let us no longer stand idly by and watch our many young people throw away a potential to enjoy the true gift of sex, the way the Lord made it to be. This next article is well-articulated, highlighting the lie that pornography is, leaving a devastated wake of many convinced young. Tragically, the resplendent reality of sex has been marred by the great porn cover-up. I was once an addict (well, just really into it) and a vast majority of young women and men who are addicted to pornography become awkward and frustrated, thus failing miserably as they seek women in the midst of their porn-inebriation. Many women are left either designing themselves according to men's contorted fantasies, thus leaving them in total disgust and anger toward men. Pornography sends the false message of what sex really is - a mirage rather than a glorious reality and essence of a monogamous relationship between one man and one woman.
|Martin Daubney and family.|
|"We have to tell our kids that pornographic sex is|
fake and real sex is about love, not lust.
By talking to them, they stand a chance."
|Parents must communicate the truth to their children,|
even if they made the same mistake.
We found Dr Valerie Voon, a neuroscientist at Cambridge University and a global authority on addiction. Then, in the first study of its kind, we recruited 19 heavy porn users who felt their habit was out of control and had Dr Voon examine their brain activity as they watched, among other things, hardcore porn.
She showed them a variety of images, both stills and videos.
The ways in which their brains responded to this diverse imagery were compared with the responses of a group of healthy volunteers.
She was interested in a particular brain region called the ventral striatum - the 'reward centre' - where our sense of pleasure is produced. This is one of the areas where an addict will show a heightened response to visual representations of their addiction - whether it's a syringe or a bottle of vodka.
What we discovered was a revelation. When shown porn, the reward centre of normal volunteers barely reacted, but that of the compulsive porn users lit up like a Christmas tree.
The compulsive porn users' brains showed clear parallels with those with substance addictions. Everybody on the project was astounded, even Dr Voon, who admitted she had been 'sceptical and ambivalent' about the study at the outset.
If porn does have the insidious power to be addictive, then letting our children consume it freely via the internet is like leaving heroin lying around the house, or handing out vodka at the school gates. And this toxic effect is filtering down directly into young girls' lives.
'When you interview young women about their experiences of sex, you see an increased level of violence: rough, violent sex,' she says.'That is directly because of porn, as young boys are getting their sexual cues from men in porn who are acting as if they're sexual psychopaths.
'Pornography is sexually traumatising an entire generation of boys.' By talking with sexual addiction experts such as Professor John E Grant of the University of Chicago, Dr Paula Hall, the UK's top sex addiction therapist, and Professor Matt Field from the University of Liverpool, we learned that the teenage brain is especially vulnerable to addiction. The brain's reward centre is fully developed by the time we're teenagers, but the part of the brain that regulates our urges - the pre-frontal cortex - isn't fully developed until our mid-20s. The brains of teenagers are not wired to say 'stop', they are wired to want more. The implications of this study are profoundly troubling.
So who is going to take on the responsibility for protecting our children until they are old enough to do it for themselves? Can we rely on schools? It strikes me that the current sex education system in the UK - where schools are obliged only to teach the basics of reproduction and the perils of sex, which they can opt out of anyway - is hopelessly outdated.
In the internet age, our children are turning to online porn for an alternative sex education - the worst place they can go.
The Mail claimed a victory in July when David Cameron announced that by the end of 2014 all 19 million UK homes currently connected to the internet will be contacted by service providers and told they must say whether family friendly filters that block all porn sites should be switched on or off.
But our TV show proved that determined children will always find a way around online blocks. Ultimately, the responsibility lies with us, the parents. The age of innocence is over.
|Proverbs 7:15 likens a sexually lured man|
to an ox going to slaughter.
Porn On The Brain airs on Monday, 30 September at 10pm on Channel 4 as part of Channel 4's Campaign for Real Sex
"Suddenly he follows her as an ox goes to the slaughter, or as one in fetter to the discipline of a fool, until an arrow pierces through his liver; as a bird hastens to the snare, so he does not know that it will cost him his life." - Prov 7:15